Self-management is built on a foundation of self-awareness. If 1st grader can accurately identify his feelings and how they drive his behaviors, he will be better-able to act on those feelings. Self-management allows your child to develop his ability to control his behavior and mood, which can be very empowering. Also part of self-management is the ability to set and work toward goals. In these younger years, goals can simply be getting dressed in the morning without being told, cleaning up in the kitchen, picking up his toys and games, or reading a new book from beginning to end without help.
During these early elementary years, when children are in a formal school setting, they’re interacting with more peers and adults. This increased exposure to others begins to broaden their understanding of the world. Children at this age are developing the ability to identify their feelings and what causes them. They are also learning how to manage their emotions and behave appropriately. You can help your child develop her social and emotional skills. The concepts highlighted in this section are based on the five sets of competencies developed by the Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL).
In these early elementary years, your daughter may be able to identify ways they can calm themselves and ways to deal with emotions that are upsetting. She may also be able to stick to a routine, like getting ready for bed or getting ready for school, and be able to recognize the steps it takes for those routines to be complete. They should also be able to wait their turn, whether she's in the classroom or playing with friends.
Your child should also be able to set some goals, better-known at this age as wishes, and work toward them. For example, if he’s in the 7- to 8-year-old range, he may want to get a family cat or dog. Your 1st grader could do small tasks around the house like caring for and feeding a fish to show he’s ready for more responsibility. These strategies could also be used for allowing sleepovers with friends. If your son shows he can follow their bedtime routine without being asked, he could be rewarded with sleepovers.
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Keep in mind every child develops at his or her own pace. If you have concerns about your child’s development, please contact your healthcare provider or your child’s teacher or school counselor, or visit our additional resources page.